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25 long-distance date ideas
Long-distance dates work best when you do the same thing at the same time, or the same thing at different times and compare. Here are 25 ideas. OurMaybe fits the second kind: you each answer a list whenever you're free, across time zones, and you both see what you agree on.
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The 25 ideas
At the same time
- Start the same movie at the same second and stay on a call
- Cook the same recipe in two kitchens
- Order each other dinner as a surprise, then eat together on video
- Play an online game against each other
- Take the same walk, each in your own city, on the phone
- Fall asleep on a call
- Do a workout together on video
- Watch the same sunset from two places, if the time zones allow
- Have a dress-up dinner date on video, candles and all
On your own time
- Read the same book and talk about it on Sundays
- Send a voice message every morning
- Keep a shared playlist and add one song a day
- Mail a handwritten letter
- Send a care package with five small things
- Answer the same list of questions separately and compare
- Keep a shared photo album of ordinary days
- Leave each other a short video to wake up to
For the next visit
- Plan the next visit hour by hour, together
- Make a list of restaurants to try when you're in the same place
- Book something for the visit that neither of you can cancel
- Pick a trip to meet in the middle
- Count down with a shared calendar
- Agree on the first meal you'll have together
- Choose a show to save for when you're on the same couch
- Decide what you'll do on the first morning: nothing is a fine answer
Why lists suit long-distance couples
Most date ideas assume the same room. A list you answer apart doesn't: one of you fills it in on a lunch break, the other before bed, and the overlap is waiting for both of you. It gives you something to talk about that isn't how the day went.
Start with Date Night to plan the next visit, or Getaways to pick where to meet. If you'd rather talk, here are 50 questions for couples.
Questions people ask
- What can long-distance couples do together?
- Watch the same movie on a call, cook the same recipe in two kitchens, play an online game, read the same book, or answer the same list of questions separately and compare.
- How often should long-distance couples have a date?
- A fixed slot helps more than frequency: one evening a week that both of you protect, plus small daily contact like a voice message.
- Does OurMaybe work across time zones?
- Yes. Each of you answers whenever it suits you. The overlap appears on the shared link once both have answered.
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Last updated October 8, 2026.